Avoid arrogance in giving comments

I have often seem many cases of arrogant comments given by people.

They have certain knowledge of the issue, and they think that they knowledge is correct. They express their comments in an arrogant and disdainful way.

They did not realize the following:

a) Their knowledge may be outdated or wrong
b) They may have misunderstood the view given by another person.
c) They also adopt this approach in giving a cynical comment.

Sometimes, the arrogance is reflected in their desire to teach or give advice to the other person. Before doing so, they should reflect on their credibility to teach or advice the other person.

This arrogant attitude shows a badly educated person.

A well educated person is respectful of the views of other people. He tries to see and understand the other person’s point of view. He looks for the points that he can agree with.

If he has to express a point of disagreement, he (or she) does it respectfully and objectively. He does not suggest that his view is correct and the other person is wrong.

I encourage people to be more positive and more supportive. They should avoid arrogance and cynicism.

 

KL Tan

 

 

 

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23 Responses to “Avoid arrogance in giving comments”

  • oxygen:

    AFTER PLAGIARISM, THEN GONE MUTE, this moralizing sounds like a stray puppy barking around with two d*cks.

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  • Trust the Readers:

    TKL, You should;

    a) Reply back, provide the correction so that everyone knows you’re right

    b) Same as [a]

    c) Samn as [a] They will have to swallow back their cynical comments if you are right.

    If you have not even done those, then You must be wrong and they must be right in their comments in the first place.

    You only see them as arrogant because you have nothing to retort and you cannot swallow your lost plight. Otherwise you would have responded.

    Generally speaking, Commentators in TRE often Self-Regulate and Self-Correct themselves amongst the discussion. Recently in one of those I can even see a reader [Oxygen] conceded defeat to [PAP100%] but if 9 out of 10 are against you TKL, What else you want to deny?

    Trust the Readers OR DON’T WRITE ANYMORE.!

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  • MarBowling:

    Tan Kian Lian and KL Tan are TWIN brothers. I surrender!

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  • Trust the Lees and Die-nasty:

    @ oxygen
    Don’t waste your pearls on a swine.
    Just ignore it and leave the space blank.

    I learned long ago, never to wrestle with a pig. You get dirty, and besides, the pig likes it – George Bernard Shaw

    oxygen:
    AFTER PLAGIARISM, THEN GONE MUTE, this moralizing sounds like a stray puppy barking around with two d*cks.

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  • Darth Vader:

    Hey tkl, lets see now; WHO were the arrogant idiots who made these arrogant and disdainful comments:

    1: “I know more about the prices of 10-year and 99-year HDB leases than you so just listen to me”

    2: “Unlike in the West, at least in China the people voted into office truly reflect the choices of the (CCP only) voters”

    3: “The press in China are independent, unlike in the West”

    4: “Elect more opposition members into parliament so that they can pressure the pap into appointing me as their advisor”

    5: “Focus your attacks only on the issues, not on the government”

    6: “What the youth of Hong Kong really want is cheaper housing, not protests against the (communist) government”

    So tkl, WHO are these arrogant, egotistical loudmouthed narcissistic fools who think they’re smarter and know more about every issue than anyone else

    Oh yeah, that”s right, now I remember

    THEY ARE ALL YOU!!!!

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  • oxygen:

    @ Trust the Readers

    WHERE HUH did this happens? Have you mistaken?

    Trust the Readers: Recently in one of those I can even see a reader [Oxygen] conceded defeat to [PAP100%]

    I hope you are not referring to this one.

    Oxygen Defeated!: Bloody Oxygen conceded defeat to PAP.Gurantee.Win 2019/20, What a bad omen started by an empty vessel full of noise. Hahahahahahahaha LOL.

    PAP.GUARANTEE.WIN.GE2019/20 – YOU WON!.

    in this thread

    http://www.tremeritus.net/2019/07/28/activism-barriers-and-behind-the-scene-events-of-the-5000-strong-2013-pwp-protest/

    I have responded fairly and conclusively.

    oxygen: @ Oxygen defeated!

    @ PAP.GUARANTEE.WIN.GE2019/20: WALKED STRAIGHT INTO MY TRAP. You are a bigger idiot walking into his conflationist affliction full of bullshit talk

    Oxygen Defeated!: Bloody Oxygen conceded defeat to PAP.Gurantee.Win 2019/20, What a bad omen started by an empty vessel full of noise. Hahahahahahahaha LOL.

    PAP.GUARANTEE.WIN.GE2019/20 – YOU WON!.

    Ringgit appreciates to 1 RGT = S$3? Take a look into the historical chart for USD to ringgit over the last 10 years for guidance.

    https://www.xe.com/currencycharts/?from=USD&to=MYR&view=10Y

    10 yrs ago, 1US$ = 3.5 ringgit, now 1US$ =4.12 Ringgit

    That is a DEPRECIATION OF RINGGIT OF 18% OVER 10 YEARS.

    HOW CAN RINGGIT APPRECIATE AGAINST S$ when it keep falling against anchor currency of US$?

    18% fall in Ringgit over 10 yr equates to mere 1.8% per annum

    CURRENCY MOVEMENT ARE SMALL AND OVER EXTENDED PERIOD.

    HOW CAN RINGGIT RISE BY 300% AGAINST s$ AS CLAIMS BY YOUR IDIOT HERO?

    Maybe take 200 YEARS!!!!

    YOU MUST BE THE BIGGEST MORON SOUTH OF THE NORTH POLE OF NO COMPARISON WITH ANYONE ELSE IN THE ENTIRE HISTORY OF CIVILISATION.

    MORON!!!

    BUT THAT SAID I AGREE WITH YOU ON THIS.

    Trust the Readers: Generally speaking, Commentators in TRE often Self-Regulate and Self-Correct themselves amongst the discussion. Recently in one of those I can even see a reader [Oxygen] conceded defeat to [PAP100%] but if 9 out of 10 are against you TKL, What else you want to deny?

    Trust the Readers OR DON’T WRITE ANYMORE.!

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  • oxygen:

    @ Marbowling

    MAYBE ONE IS REAL, the other is just ghostly shadow.

    HILARIOUS!!!

    MarBowling: Tan Kian Lian and KL Tan are TWIN brothers. I surrender!

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  • patriot of TUMASIK:

    Tan ahhhh!!! you are at Liberty to Rebut or answer your perceptions of Arrogant & Cynical comments…

    and you ANSWER when told that your writings are Plagiarism (admit/deny) or Lies or just sheer RUBBISH!!!

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  • Real life quitter:

    @KL Tan,

    There’s no such thing as outdated knowledge, it’s part of the the history how new knowledge is based upon and evolved.

    For someone of status of your generation who thinks in such reflect why Singapore was once weak and backward.

    Comments in a forum should be kept open without censor, as it reflects the quality of the general public of those who are considered educated, and also the real life events that are happening right now, and those comments, viewpoints, suggestions etc could benefit those politicians or businesses who seek answers, and could be lifesavers for some too.

    For the triumph of evil people, the only thing good men need to do is to do nothing. There is nothing more unequal than the equal treatment of unequal people. (ex. indian polticians destroying your country)

    Your grandkids will not forgive you if you let the destructions continue.

    We quit because you support the criminals who shower you with lies.

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  • My name is "Gold Chain":

    @KL Tan “Sometimes, the arrogance is reflected in their desire to teach or give advice to the other person. Before doing so, they should reflect on their credibility to teach or advice the other person.”

    This is precisely what you have been doing “teaching and giving advice to the other person”. KL, your twin brother Kim Lian (aka Gold Chain!) writes and thinks like you!

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  • A Paragon of Arrogance:

    It comes from those who ALWAYS must be right. They have to out argue EVERYBODY and win and win all the time. Cannot accept that in life, one can’t always win.

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  • why guy:

    TKL
    if you are so afraid or annoyed by arragant comments
    dont write any articles that people will comment

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  • Harder Truths:

    Attention all TRE Readers

    By Order of TKL – we must now all be humble, admit we do not know what we are saying and also stop attacking him.

    Or he will cry. Poor Baby.

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  • singapore ah mah:

    if you are sincere.tell that to the $CHOLARS?

    ELSE,STFU,yea?

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  • Reality Check:

    Mr Tan is actually a newbie obsessed with sending articles after articles to this website. When i compare Mr Tan with other contributors like Gilbert Goh, Philip Ang, Brad Boyer or even Goh Meng Seng, Mr Tan in my opinion ranks at the bottom in relevance and substance befitting this website.. These guys produce serious stuff and i have yet to hear them complain about negative comments.

    Mr Tan on the other hand provides easy reading simple short stories which is neither here nor there, filled with common sense advises which can be found in the internet. It has none of the brain storming analysis or ‘out of the box’ thinking which i would look for.

    For example, In one article, Mr Tan was calling people to vote opposition no matter what, hoping to get 40 opposition members elected. Is it really a good or bad advice? What if the Opposition Candidate comes dressed as Donkey? Still vote for this Donkey is it? And in the very same article Mr Tan suggested that the government could employ him to be their Advisor. For What? To advise the government on how to help the Opposition do better in the next election is it? I wonder how the Opposition will view this statement by Mr Tan offering himself to be Advisor to the government. Does Mr Tan realise this is an earth shattering statement for the opposition, made by someone who may want to contest against the government in future elections.

    In yet another article, Mr Tan said we need new leaders with new ideas. So which is which? New leaders with new ideas or 40 Opposition(with 1 dressed as Donkey included). Anyway, this is not the first time Mr Tan has complained about negative comments. Its just a different angle approach. Sigh !!

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  • why so long winded:

    tan kin lian, why not just ask the folks not to point out your wrong views?

    sure. some are point blank. when you talk hen and chicken, which is almost every time, they tell you to shut up your stupid mouth.

    but. there are also those who in no uncertain terms tell you you are wrong. but. since you are stupidly stubborn, and refuse to listen, and continue to talk hen and chicken, no choice lah but to ffff you until you shut up.

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  • TanKL, Than Kia lian etc:

    Low IQ is not a crime, But stupidity is. So Tan KL not point changing name format, u r just stupid. A polanpa will always be a plp. When u sold ur soul to savage neglect n hoping to entitlement u though u deserve, u showed your despicability in ur soul. Your quest for Presidency evidenced n the biggest joke. U have lost the golden opportunity when u r employed. To recoup now just doubly confirmed your stupidity, imbalance n greed which r basic ingradients of polanpaism exploitable by the super greed Unjust have nfi of real human values so lay off to avert further self generated humiliation n have a happier life. Knowing oneself is a difficult but a human achievement itself no millions nor power can buy!

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  • Bapoktua And 94 jesters:

    the 70% bastards on the Lee island do this often . Arrogantly replying to u , and if they are not happy they will see u down by rumour mongering. THe fcking bastards deserve to be fcked by the MIW…I feel no sympathy for these bastards.

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  • Do yourself a favour:

    Mr Tan Kin Lian.

    Please someone help you to set up a survey in your Facebook account with the following candidates:

    1. Chee Soon Juan
    2. Heng Swee Keat
    3. Lee Hsien Loong
    4. Pritam Singh
    5. Tan Cheng Bock
    6. Tan Kin Lian

    For each candidate, ask the million-dollar question.

    “Will you vote for this person in the coming General Election?”

    To keep the survey simple, let the response be only a simple “Yes” and “No”.

    Let the survey runs for two week and collate the results.

    The results will help you gauge your own popularity and your standing when compared to the other five candidates.

    The results will also indicate how likely you may get elected into the Parliament or how likely you may lose your deposit.

    No matter how you look at it, it will be a good wake up call to the reality landscape.

    Good luck and God Bless!

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  • DavidNeo&IreneVanessa:Bastards:

    Haha, Jing Lian.

    My name is "Gold Chain":
    @KL Tan “Sometimes, the arrogance is reflected in their desire to teach or give advice to the other person. Before doing so, they should reflect on their credibility to teach or advice the other person.”

    This is precisely what you have been doing “teaching and giving advice to the other person”. KL, your twin brother Kim Lian (aka Gold Chain!) writes and thinks like you!

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  • oxygen:

    @ Real life quitter

    YES, KNOWLEDGE IS AN EVER EXPANDING CIRCLE – the more you learn, the more you discover you DON’T KNOW & need to learn to expand your knowledge (just like you said there is no such a thing as outdated knowledge) – moralizing fiction doesn’t know this. HIS SKULL IS EMPTY, EXCEPT MORALIZING HIS/HER LITTLE THUMB-SUCKING of fake gospel!

    Real life quitter: There’s no such thing as outdated knowledge, it’s part of the the history how new knowledge is based upon and evolved.

    @ Paragon of Arrogance.

    PRESENT TENSE TOLD BBC JOURNALIST THIS – nobody has a monopoly of wisdom or information. Yet we have POFMA, PAPpypolitics singing and dancing fiction back by an orchestra/chorus of IBs

    A Paragon of Arrogance: It comes from those who ALWAYS must be right. They have to out argue EVERYBODY and win and win all the time. Cannot accept that in life, one can’t always win.

    Social media is doing just fine of BLUNTNESS – shut down the PRETENTIOUS MORALIZING PREACHERS, IB trolls and their fart of fictions full of bullsh*t nonsense.

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  • Monopoly anyone?:

    Besides having a monopoly on truth, they have nothing but contempt for the people. If you notice, they treat people like fools.

    oxygen:

    @ Paragon of Arrogance.

    PRESENT TENSE TOLD BBC JOURNALIST THIS – nobody has a monopoly of wisdom or information. Yet we have POFMA, PAPpypolitics singing and dancing fiction back by an orchestra/chorus of IBs

    Social media is doing just fine of BLUNTNESS – shut down the PRETENTIOUS MORALIZING PREACHERS, IB trolls and their fart of fictions full of bullsh*t nonsense.

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  • Rabble-rouser:

    @ oxygen:
    Mate! The pace of New Knowledge rendering old knowledge into the weeds is progressing rapidly. Worse still, you have to unlearn the old ways simply to keep up abreast with the new. But that doesn’t mean discarding the old knowledge as being outdated. The problem with the new is that sometimes the flaws come out much later down the road.
    For example, a few years ago, Social Media like FaceBook, Instagram, etc were so popular. The early adopters (Social Media Influencers) obviously used them to “collect” followers & worse to come, your personal details, preferences & data weren’t private at all. The Big Tech companies use such “Big” data either to monetize (sell to Info companies) or aggregate the data for use to Big Advertisement practices. The Social Media influencers became “free-loaders” using their so-call number of followers to demand free lodging, free food, etc simply as an excuse publicize their business. Well, businesses have now wised up seeing them as nothing but freeloaders!
    But the problem is that no book teaches you that, you have to pick up information sources, research those resources from the Internet, cross-reference & so on. No one can teach you that. But on the same note, the S’porean curiousity for learning is limited because our learning culture is benefit-based. How so? S’poreans learn by using the rote-based mechanics, they don’t bother understanding the principles. It’s the marks that they’re after!
    Another facet of learning is collecting “paper” qualifications & certification by the reams. That is how the NTUC cronies make their money through retraining programs. 90% of the course content are practically useless or irrelevant. But the bulk of the course fees are covered by govt subsidies eg Skill Training Fund, etc or govt grants. Yet the reality if you know it, is different. S’pore’s eco-system is increasingly “Lies, Fantasy & Falsehoods” – the voices, the media narratives were all one-sided (no criticism, no analytical process), it is very difficult to see clarity in such a well-controlled environment. The amount of garbage is enormous ie. why S’poreans are so stupid!

    oxygen: YES, KNOWLEDGE IS AN EVER EXPANDING CIRCLE – the more you learn, the more you discover you DON’T KNOW & need to learn to expand your knowledge (just like you said there is no such a thing as outdated knowledge) – moralizing fiction doesn’t know this. HIS SKULL IS EMPTY, EXCEPT MORALIZING HIS/HER LITTLE THUMB-SUCKING of fake gospel!

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