Adopting a supportive mindset

When someone takes the trouble to analyze a problem and to offer a solution, it is useful to adopt a supportive mindset. What is this mindset?

To be supportive, you need to:

a) Read the suggestion carefully and understand it. You should clarify any doubts or ambiguity
b) Look for the areas that you agree with and state it.
c) Avoid passing negative judgment which usually comes from misunderstanding.

Some people adopt a negative mindset, which are reflected by the following behaviors:

a) They express their disagreement, which usually comes from a misunderstanding of the proposal
b) They pass judgment, reflecting an arrogant and superior attitude.

Most people do not bother to reflect on the issue.

I will try to be supportive of suggestions that someone has clearly taken the trouble to analyze carefully and to offer solutions. However, I would ignore suggestions that are clearly not thought through carefully.


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7 Responses to “Adopting a supportive mindset”

  • patriot of TUMASIK:

    Did you practice what you preach when you stood for the PE???…market bet 3-1 you will lose your deposit…did you take hid instead of making a fool of yourself and help deny Tan Cheng Bok from winning

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  • VOTE TKL:

    I have thought through carefully. Should Tan Kin Lian be voted as an MP? No bias, no arrogance, just HONESTY. Let the “thumbs UP” and “thumbs DOWN” below decide.

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  • HDB flats depreciate to ZERO:

    To have the right mindset in any situation ALWAYS keep EGO out of it. This will prevent making a value judgment.

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  • tan kin lian pea brained:

    how to read to pea brained stuff?

    when head and tail do not meet?

    if waste time trying hard to make them meet, can also end up pea brained.

    why take risk?

    better to choose proven humans, such as Ms Sylvia Lim Mr Leo Perara Mr KJeyaretnam Mr Roy Ngerng and such.

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  • UniQ:

    Wu Kong Kanna Boh Kong…

    Liao Lang See Gan….

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  • Darth Vader:

    Why are whining away here tkl? Feeling butthurt over all the brickbats you keep receiving here? Hey, ever heard of the old saying: “If you can’t take the heat stay out of the kitchen”?

    Listen up bub, NOBODY would slam you if you post SENSIBLE stuff. But WHAT sort of CRAP do you poat? ONLY the RULING PARTY members can vote, meaning will be under pap rule FOREVER? We should embrace COMMUNISM of all things????!!!! When all communism is good for is DESTROYING societies?! Bus services should all only shuttle passengers to MRT stations when this will DEPRIVE us of ALTERNATIVE routes that may actually be MORE CONVENIENT for us?! If your ideas are REALLY even 1% as well thought out as you claim here, you’d have rREALUZED all these!!!!

    And if all your STUPID ideas aren’t enough, you like to come here to brag or whine about your experiences. Know what tkl? NOBODY CARES ABOUT YOUR PROBLEMS, LET ALONE WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY!!!! You are just ONE private individual with NO authority at all; you’re absolutely IRRELEVANT to the world!!!! So WHO cares about you or your issues other than your own family and friends?! NOBODY, that’s who!!!!

    The absolute best thing for you to do is every time you want to post something here, you should engage in some hand jobs till the urge goes away…

    With BOTH hands!!!!

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  • Darth Vader:

    Why are you whining away here tkl? Feeling butthurt over all the brickbats you keep receiving here? Hey, ever heard of the old saying: “If you can’t take the heat stay out of the kitchen”?

    Listen up bub, NOBODY would slam you if you post SENSIBLE stuff. But WHAT sort of CRAP do you post? ONLY the RULING PARTY members can vote, meaning we will be under pap rule FOREVER? We should embrace COMMUNISM of all things????!!!! When all communism is good for is DESTROYING societies?! Bus services should all only shuttle passengers to MRT stations when this will DEPRIVE us of ALTERNATIVE routes that may actually be MORE CONVENIENT for us?! If your ideas are REALLY even 1% as well thought out as you claim here, you’d have REALIZED all these!!!!

    And if all your STUPID ideas aren’t enough, you like to come here to brag or whine about your experiences. Know what tkl? NOBODY CARES ABOUT YOUR PROBLEMS, LET ALONE WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY!!!! You are just ONE private individual with NO authority at all; you’re absolutely IRRELEVANT to the world!!!! So WHO cares about you or your issues other than your own family and friends?! NOBODY, that’s who!!!!

    The absolute best thing for you to do is every time you want to post something here, you should engage in some hand jobs till the urge goes away…

    With BOTH hands!!!!

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