Learn from mistakes – do not be defensive

When something goes wrong, the reaction of most people is defensive. They immediately look for evidence to prove that it is not their fault.

I prefer to take a different approach.

I want to see what went wrong and how the error can be rectified. It does not matter to me who was responsible for the fault, because it is likely to be accidental and unforeseen.

We can learn from the mistake and look for the way to prevent its future occurrence.

Mistakes and accidents are part of daily lives. There is no need to be defensive.

However, we should be diligent to learn from the mistake and avoid them in the future.

A defensive attitude does not help to identify the mistake. Often, by focusing on blaming other people, we miss the change of getting to the root of the problem and learning from the mistake.

The defensive attitude is bad, but it is quite common.

 

Tan Kin Lian

 

 

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24 Responses to “Learn from mistakes – do not be defensive”

  • xoxo:

    MISTAKE + CORRECTION = LEARNING?
    I think you miss out REPENTANCE?

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  • Zhenzidan:

    Aren’t you also always defensive when readers slam you for talking without logic?

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  • Agreed:

    Good to learn from mistake.
    Making a mistake is OK….making the same mistake is not OK.

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  • Narcissism and the Offensive:

    There is no coming into consciousness without pain…. Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves…. The healthy man does not torture others – generally it is the tortured ones who turn into torturers.

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  • Tracey Ching:

    Ah Tan, when are you migrating to China? Soon I hope, hurry up. You are not a young man, you know.

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  • Dr. Chan:

    @TKL
    What happens if the whole idea is to intentionally make the mistake to screw people up and enrich themselves? E.g. the PAP government.
    Will never admit mistake but double down.

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  • opposition dude:

    But uncle Tan, you NEVER learn from your mistakes, you just make them over and over and over again time after time!

    Your current obsession about the lockdown and how Covid is spreading is all wrong but you aren’t learning from your own mistake but instead keep insisting you are in the right!

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  • Soccerbetting2:

    Reported on the new paper :Quote – “….
    Shaffiq Alkhatib
    Aug 07, 2020

    A woman who found out her husband wanted a divorce caused a fire in their matrimonial home on the 13th storey of a Bedok North block of flats, resulting in more than $17,000 in damage.

    The fire, which started from a lit cigarette, also caused the evacuation of residents from 20 units in the 10th to 14th storeys of the block. No one was injured in the blaze.

    Malisah Mohammad Said, 31, was sentenced yesterday to five months’ jail after admitting to a mischief charge.

    Deputy Public Prosecutor Samuel Chew said the couple had been living separately before the incident following an argument.

    Court documents did not give details of their dispute.

    Malisah was at home around 12.30pm on July 15 last year when she received a voice message from her husband telling her he wanted a divorce…..

    At around 5pm, she smoked a cigarette in the master bedroom.

    The court heard that pieces of drawing paper belonging to her eight-year-old daughter from her previous marriage were scattered on the bed at the time.

    The DPP said: “After the accused was done smoking, she flicked the lit cigarette towards the en suite bathroom of the master bedroom.

    “The accused saw the lit cigarette land on the mattress of the bed. The accused also saw smoke rising from the mattress and that the lit cigarette was starting to burn the said mattress.”

    Despite knowing the cigarette could cause a fire to break out, Malisah left the flat without extinguishing it because she wanted to get back at her husband.

    About 10 minutes later, the police and the Singapore Civil Defence Force (SCDF) were alerted by members of the public that a fire had broken out in the flat.

    SCDF officers were deployed to the scene and Malisah’s neighbours had to be evacuated.

    The fire was put out around 5.45pm, the court heard. By then, it had caused $16,820 worth of damage to the flat.

    The blaze also damaged a neighbour’s air-conditioning unit, which cost $300 to repair…. “Unquote.

    Response : Intentional fire destroying by this woman Malisah also don’t need to cane her evil backside and the disgracing judge sentence only give her five months jail??? Is such fire damages also foot by public funds again? When the whole country law and court system is still having such con people court system that woman set fire, use knife attack, or attempted murder by disposing baby in rubbish bin also can be protected by the con people law of Singapore. This is a total shame on such evil court system on women rights! No wonder women become more and more daring! Judgement has been passed, so there is no wrong in critising our judge court system! Some more this woman criminal face cannot be published? Pui! Behind use a scapegoat to take her place in jail also nobody knows, possible? When the judge sentence is super lenient, the public ptosecutor don’t need to appeal for a higher deterrent sentence? Why?

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  • I am Trump,Donny Trumpp:

    USA is now behaving like commies.
    In the past,before Deng Xiao-ping ECONOMIC REFORM,China took over FOREIGN companies with no questions asked.
    These days, MODEL FREE COUNTRY USA is doing what China did in the past!

    Is USA fast becoming more communist than Commies themselves?

    So much for bragging about being democratic world’s top model country.

    CHAIRMAN DONALD TRUMP OF THE COMNUNIST REPUBLIC OF U$A,*TONG CHER MEN,NI HOU*?

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  • Criminal offence:

    Mistake and criminal offence is different.
    Criminal offence need to be punish fairly…whether man or woman.Same justice for all.
    We should learn from mistake so that we do not repeat it .
    Progress only comes when we know where it went wrong and admit it.

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  • Uselesstankl:

    According to CS’s erudite pearls of wisdom, Tharman cannot be PM because he was not groomed to be. A motherhood statement that completely ignores the integral ingredients of an individual’s desire to serve in that capacity coupled with innate ability. If Tharman does not want to be PM, fair enough. But to say that he cannot be PM because he was not groomed to be so is completely ridiculous!

    xxxx

    Another assshole from poland.

    First we have a Indian foreign trash saying water must go up 30%, followed by another trash from malaysia saying same thing.

    Next thing we know, water up 30%.

    ALL THESE FOREIGN TRASH ARE SCREWING UP THE NATION BUT SINKIES ” LOVE” THEM LIKE HELL.

    FUK THE SINKIES !!!

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  • Uselesstankl:

    According to CS’s erudite pearls of wisdom, Tharman cannot be PM because he was not groomed to be. A motherhood statement that completely ignores the integral ingredients of an individual’s desire to serve in that capacity coupled with innate ability. If Tharman does not want to be PM, fair enough. But to say that he cannot be PM because he was not groomed to be so is completely ridiculous!

    xxxx

    First we have foreign trash from india saying water must go up 30%, followed by a malaysian trash saying same. Next thing we have 30% water tax up.

    Now this foreign trash coming here , USED BY PAP to say same things.

    Sinkies loved these FOREIGN TRASH OF ALL KINDS.

    FUK SINKIES

    FUK FOREIGNERS N TRASH.

    LOOK AT JTEO, KWAWBW, LSS, ETC ETC

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  • arrogant betrayers of sgs:

    PAPs are good examples..never learn or dont want to learn, admit mistake and improve.
    yet they dare say of Dr Chee that he hasnt change, cant change and wont change..
    With that they are also describing their own PAP DNA.

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  • PAP CLOSE DOWN:

    Some people never admit wrong. Push here push there.

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  • JialaT JT:

    TKL is spouting rubbish about being defensive when someone makes mistake. You must know why is there such defensive mechanism. BECAUSE OF CONSEQUENCES ONE HAS TO FACE IF PROVEN THAT THE MISTAKES ARE DUE TO NEGLIGENCE, COMPLACENCY OR CARELESSNESS!

    If it is a typographical mistake like in your opinion piece re the word “change” which should be “chance”, it is unintentional unlike the recent Beirut blast which IS a DEADLY MISTAKE!

    SUCH MISTAKE CAN BE PREVENTED WHICH CAN’T BE ACCIDENTAL & UNFORESEEN!

    YOUR ADVICE CAN BE THROWN INTO THE RUBBISH BIN!

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  • NotMyProblem:

    Dr. Chan:
    @TKL
    What happens if the whole idea is to intentionally make the mistake to screw people up and enrich themselves? E.g. the PAP government.
    Will never admit mistake but double down.

    @Dr Chan; Don’t blame the PAP. We, the voters, know exactly what PAP government can do. They “screw people up and enrich themselves”, but they are still in the Parliament.

    Heard of this? “Idiot politician is not the problem, the problem is having idiot voters keep voting them in”.

    Examples; we kept telling the government that a lot of companies only employ foreigners but MOM did nothing, even now. Just to put up a watchlist. What for if no action? Don’t you people see the problem? MOM knew the situation but only to tell the people “I know”, that it!!! Even worse, PAP opens the border for more infected foreign workers to come in!!!

    Another one; 53% of the voters in Bukit Panjang could vote in an internationally renowned expert in infection disease to help in the fight of Covid-19. But they prefer a task force led by an electrician which only act on hindsight looking for magic solution and wish to rewind the clock. How stupid? Serve them right, Bukit Panjang transport hub became a cluster!! LTA even removed some buses going the Bukit Panjang.

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  • 61% cotton producing sheep:

    tan kin lian cannot be more wrong.

    this is the problem. if don’t not anything, don’t anyhow say.

    mistake, learning, correction, are very technical terms only the well schooled outside pap system understand.

    to start, it is cybernetics. we suggest tan kin lian start by googling what it means.

    1st, mistake is a 1st order differential event. it deals with lack of right information. since without right information, an action when taken can be right or wrong or somewhere in between.

    2nd, learning is also a 1st order differential event. it deals with new/additional information. new does not mean NEW, it just mean new to that event under consideration. it may be old news that pap lies. but for a new citizen who first hears it, it is learning for the new citizen since it is new information for him/her.

    3rd, correction is a 2nd order differential event. it is made after a mistake/error is made and new/additional information is taken into account. it is 2nd order because it moves forward and it also moves backward at the same time feeding into the loop.

    we don’t know if tan kin lian knows how to integrate 1st order and 2nd order differential events. if he cant he shouldn’t have used words such as mistake learning correction. if he can his equation wouldn’t be as he has written it, BECAUSE it is wrong. he got it upside down.

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  • Money Talks Louder in TRE:

    At least one is ‘defensive’ when being criticized.
    Never mind the wrong. Tan Kin Lian, have you defend your comments in TRE when readers rebut you?

    So far you keep posting the same garbage and keeping ‘mum’. Did you learn from your own mistake? You think you’re ‘god’ or what?

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  • Scratchhead:

    I wonder TKL owns any mirror at home. You need to see yourself first before telling people what to do.

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  • xoxo:

    Simple layman perception of WHY FT POLICY to AUGMENT SG’s POPULATION IS NOT SUSTAINABLE N DAFT.

    Say,you oredy DUMP 400K FTs who eventually become PRs n then become NEW CITIZENS,for simplicity.
    That means 400K *TRU BLU* sgs GOT REPLACED,as NUMBER OF PME JOBS REMAIN MORE OR LESS CONSTANT as is the ACTUAL CASE OVER LAST DECADE ,i hazard?

    So,NEW CITIZENS BECOME *EXPENSIVE* TO EMPLOY N AGAIN,these CITIZENS ARE BEING REPLACED BY *NEWER FTs* so as to INCREASE POPULATION SIZE AS STRESSFUL life-style here STIFLED CHILD-BIRTH.So,in effect,ANOTHER GOOD NUMBER OF *NEW SG-PMEs* got REPLACED.
    AND,THIS RECKLESS N SENSELESS PROCESS KEEPS GOING ON.

    Soon,THERE WILL BE MORE NEWER N NEWER CITIZENS GETTING *UNDER-EMPLOYED* AND IT WILL LEAD TO SOCIO-ECONOMIC PROBLEMS FOR THE NATION.
    OF COURSE,THE RICH MINISTERS N MPs dont care as do other well-to-do SGS???

    THERE you see ,THE PAP POPULATION AUGMENTATION MODEL IS NOT ONLY UNSUSTAINABLE,IT IS DAMN STUPID TO THE CORE!!!

    PAY MILLION$$$ STILL GET MONKEY$ WHO CANT EVEN MAKE PROPER USE OF *HINDSIGHT*,what more about FORESIGHT?

    TOO MANY STUPID BOOTLICKING $cholars in govt.
    It is alarming!

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  • @ Dr.Chan:

    You talking to Tan Kin Lian, (a by-product of PAP cronyism)? Hahaha….

    Dr. Chan:
    @TKL
    What happens if the whole idea is to intentionally make the mistake to screw people up and enrich themselves? E.g. the PAP government.
    Will never admit mistake but double down.

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  • @zenzidan:

    Keeping ‘mum’ is not defensive. More like cowardice.

    Zhenzidan:
    Aren’t you also always defensive when readers slam you for talking without logic?

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  • REGIME CHANGE is the solution:

    LKY never admitted he made a mistake. The same goes for PAP. That is why it will never change because of hubris. “Change” is an admission a mistake was made.

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  • oxygen:

    @ Money Talks Louder in TRE:

    AGREE! The FAKE and FLAW in @ Tan KL propositions is that failed achievement or even sub-standard mediocre performance is PASSED OFF as acceptable.

    In leadership, any CEO with such disposition leave behind a rotting enterprise decaying beyond rescue – much like a rotting carcass infested with maggots.

    Money Talks Louder in TRE: At least one is ‘defensive’ when being criticized.
    Never mind the wrong. Tan Kin Lian, have you defend your comments in TRE when readers rebut you?

    So far you keep posting the same garbage and keeping ‘mum’. Did you learn from your own mistake? You think you’re ‘god’ or what?

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