Hell Hath No Fury Like A Woman Scorned

Singapore prides itself in being a very “conservative” place. We like to tell the world that our success is based on “Asian Values,” which means that we value the family as the building block of society and that we value the needs of society over the rights of the individual. Hence, the basis of our social policies is the fact that its usually good for the family or at least prevents harm to the idea of the family.

There is however, one area where “conservative” Singapore seems to be rather “open.” That is the area of sex, especially when it involves those who are well to do. We, have, for example a thriving sex industry. The official line is that when it comes to the lower end of the market, we need to give our foreign workers an outlet otherwise they’ll rape our women (read professional middle class Chinese) and at the higher end, we need to give our expatriate workers a chance to have fun so that they can do whatever they’re doing for Singapore.

As for the local Singaporean guy …. Well, let’s just say that things get particularly interesting, especially if you’re educated and a working professional. Voyeurism for example, seems to be a big thing among the guys at university, if one were to judge by the number of cases of guys getting caught peeping into the girl’s showers. Then there’s the inevitable story of a working professional getting involved in this or that sexual scandal.

The latest “sexual” story to hit Singapore’s press is the story of a doctor who sued a woman who accused him of sexual harassment for libel. Details of the story can be found at ST and CNA.

This story has elements of a good drama. There is, for a start, money and brought two of our larger medical groups into the picture. Dr. Julian Ong is part of HC Specialist Limited, which is listed on the Catalyst Exchange and Ms. Serene Tiong is a business development manager of Thomson Medical Group.

Taken from ChannelNews Asia

Then there’s the twist in the personal relationships. Ms. Tiong sued Dr. Ong and a Dr. Chan for colluding to take advantage of vulnerable women patients and she claimed to be one of them. However, there is a twist, Ms. Tiong was Dr. Chan’s lover and sued at the point when she realized that she wasn’t in an exclusive relationship with him: [LINK]

As was mentioned in the case, Ms. Tiong had never complained about being vulnerable and entered the relationship with Dr. Chan before she became his patient. If you take Ms. Tiong’s professional position into consideration, its hard to argue that Ms. Tiong was unable to give consent to any relationship with Dr. Chan. You can argue that Dr. Ong and Dr. Chan had discovered the truism of “hell hath no furry like a woman scorned.”

This aspect raises a question that should be asked – namely the question of whether sexual harassment laws have been weaponized. While I don’t disagree that laws against unwanted sexual harassment should exist, we also need to have some clarity of what defines unwanted sexual harassment. For example, can a man be sued for sexual harassment if he compliments a woman on the way she looks?

Sure, I know most women would argue that most cases the sexual harassment is real. I remember one of my part time waitresses complaining to me about a lewd remark that the main chef had made towards her. I tried to suggest that this was “boys crude humour,” but then she looked at me and said, “and how would you feel if someone asked your daughter if she preferred them circumcised,” I got the point and raised it with the restaurant owner during our nightly drinks session and the chef and the waitress ended up making peace.

However, I also had a waitress who knew how to utilize sexual harassment accusations. I first discovered it when she was asked to apologies to the Filipino colleague for throwing a tantrum in front of the customers. She refused based on the grounds that the Filipino was constantly eying her up and staring her at her breast. Within a week, the Filipino told me that there was a rumor going around that he was molesting her. The accusations were not true. This was a man I had worked with for five years and had never given the hint of being flirtatious. This was confirmed by Flesh Ball who had a stint washing cups in the Bistrot and by a friend of my kid (a friend whom my kid was quick to point out was far better looking than the waitress making the accusations). It was a struggle to make the restaurant owner understand that the Filipino guy was being shafted royally.

The same waitress then had another run in with a regular customer, and threatened him with sexual harassment accusations. As the Bistrot owner said “You know he’s touchy with the girls.” This was, once again not true, a fact that I confirmed with my daughter who was a witness to this man’s behaviour with the girls.

So, while I do agree that men do need to know their boundaries and that sexual harassment laws exists for a good reason, we also need to be very clear as to what constitutes sexual harassment and there needs to be a clear standard of what is proof. An amount of “innocent until proven guilty” need to apply to sexual harassment like it does to everything else and while one can argue reasonably that women don’t pull the trigger unless there’s a reason to, we cannot deny that sexual harassment accusations can be and have been weaponized against men, unfairly and with ill intent.


Tang Li

*Although I’ve been based mainly in Singapore for nearly two decades, I’ve had the privilege of being able meet people who have crossed borders and cultures. I’ve befriended ministers and ambassadors and worked on projects involving a former head of state. Yet, at the same time, I’ve had the privilege of befriending migrant labourers and former convicts. All of them have a story to tell. All of them add to the fabric of life. I hope to express the stories that inspire us to create life as it should be.




12 Responses to “Hell Hath No Fury Like A Woman Scorned”

  • Be careful man:

    Just be careful if you do not want to get into any trouble.
    Not worth it….

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  • Singaporeans R Free Riders:

    Dear Tang Li,
    Such relationship is ok, as it is man and woman.

    It is not man poke man and woman lick woman.

    That, my friend, is very dangerous.

    Even your Ang Mo Tua Kee Bill Clinton and Donald Trump also had many relationship with women.

    Why you allow Ang Mo Tua Kee man with many women relationship but you don’t allow Asian man to do the same ?

    Majullah $PAP$ $PAP$ Huat$ Huat$ Huat$
    Lazy Singaporeans must be Cheaper, Better, Faster

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  • Shocked:

    Lucky this guy is not a real judge. Here he is, judging cases listening from one side, his friend.

    Just because a guy has been good, does not mean he will not do sexual harassment. Remember that were actual sexual cases where the convicted had tons of great testimonies, even from MPs. Or take the recent professors from NUS. They too must had tons of good references.

    Lucky that high court judge is not like this guy.

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  • Well said:

    I recall a young doctor accused of molesting a female patient n touching her,after intense questioning she admitted it was a lie and wanted to make her boyfriend jealous,meanwhile the poor doctor was sidelined and eventually resigned fr hospital to go to another place slandered n career destroyed,
    A co I was working at once had a young executive,one secretary said he looked fierce n frightened of him,after a while rumours spread and it was said he could not get aLong with his staff and had a poor eq,this was a gross exaggeration,truth of matter this secretary had hots for him and not getting his attention she became spiteful and commented on his looks,whatever is case no-one owes another person a explanation or apology for the way they look,
    If you don’t like my face beat it,must a person explain his genes or his parentage,
    When we hear of rapes it is wrong and culprit must be punished but if she wears tantalising clothing and in middle of night walks alone on secluded road should she not shoulder the responsibility,if you leave yr House open day n night with lots money inside you deserve it if house is burgled

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  • Soccerbetting2:

    Reported on Straits Times :Quote -”Funeral director charged with culpable homicide of ex-boyfriend

    Alverna Cher Siu Pin faces a charge for culpable homicide not amounting to murder.PHOTO: ALVERNA CHER/FACEBOOK

    Dominic Low
    SINGAPORE – A 38-year-old woman was charged on Thursday (Dec 3) for her alleged involvement in the death of her former boyfriend.

    Alverna Cher Siu Pin, who appeared in court via video-link, faces a charge for culpable homicide not amounting to murder.

    On Thursday, Cher told the court that she was a single mother of two daughters and the sole breadwinner of her family, which included her parents.

    Cher, a funeral director at City Funeral Services, requested to make three phone calls – one to her family, another to have a friend pass them money, and the last one to help her engage a lawyer.

    The district judge said that the investigation officer would help to notify Cher’s family and make arrangements regarding her family’s welfare.

    The body of Cher’s 32-year-old former boyfriend was found on May 16 at about 5.30pm at a carpark in Bedok Reservoir Road, according to a police statement on Wednesday.

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    Cher became a suspect during investigations, and was later arrested.

    If found guilty of culpable homicide not amounting to murder, she could face life in prison, or be jailed for up to 20 years and given a fine….”Unquote .

    Response :TR Emeritus page title – “Hell Hath No Fury Like A Woman Scorned” ???? Does this apply to this woman Alverna Cher Siu Pin killing her boy friend case ? Because the country law is run by this b***t Minister of Law Kasisviswanathan Shanmugam that failed to set proper law to cane evil women backside and that is why women dare to hit people ,seriously injured people ,pour hot water to injure people,….and even kill people ! This is the result of the failure of b***t Kasisviswanathan Shanmugam in the law position !If the law had taken a serious view and action to cane evil women backside ,the society will already have less injury cases cause by evil women ! Go and use the law to hang that non functioning evil b***t brain of Kasisviswanathan Shanmugam before more people get injured by hell of a woman scorned !Pui !

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  • TUMASIK Patriot:

    Sexual Lust for Man or Women can be easily solved…

    “Take a Cold Shower and try whistling while Brushing your teeth under the Shower”

    The Frustration will REMOVE any urge between the THIGHS

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  • Boh Chee = Human Nature:

    Please, as illustrated in Edison Chen case. Modern day woman are no longer your virgin Mary.

    Nowadays woman talk about woman power, woman rights ( as someone here said equal rights ok but not woman rights ) ….etc. Just look at AOC of USA democrats, and soon to be VP Kamala. Kamala pushing for Marijuana to be legalize. Is that something good or positive as role model.

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  • Boh Chee = Human Nature:

    Kamala H admitted taking marijuana…(perhaps even other narcotics we dont know ? ) way before she ran for election.

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  • Soccerbetting2:

    Reported on Straits Times :Quote -”Woman allegedly mixed menstrual blood and urine into food meant for flat occupants

    Canares Rowena Ola is facing one charge of mischief, which carries a jail term of up to a year and a fine.ST PHOTO: TIMOTHY DAVID

    Shaffiq Alkhatib
    Court Correspondent
    PUBLISHEDDEC 2, 2020, 1:13 PM SGT
    SINGAPORE – A woman has been hauled to court accused of mixing her menstrual blood and urine into food meant for the occupants of a Sengkang flat.

    Canares Rowena Ola, who is from the Philippines, is facing one charge of mischief, which carries a jail term of up to a year and a fine.

    The 43-year-old was expected to plead to guilty on Wednesday (Dec 2) but decided to dispute the charge while in a district court.

    Deputy Public Prosecutor Keith Jieren Thirumaran told District Judge Marvin Bay that Ola had earlier admitted to the offence in several statements to the authorities.

    Details about Ola’s occupation and how she is linked to the alleged victims are not stated in court documents.

    There is also no mention of her reasons for allegedly committing the offence in December 2018.

    The court heard that the tainted food was consumed and no DNA testing was done on it.

    Ola is represented by defence lawyer Kalaithasan Karuppaya, and her pre-trial conference will be held on Jan 25 next year.

    In an unrelated case, an Indonesian maid was sentenced to six months and seven weeks’ jail in January for offences including tainting drinking water and rice with her urine, saliva and menstrual blood.

    Diana, 30, who goes by only one name, was hired by a family in Punggol in 2017 to work as a foreign domestic worker.

    While in their flat in August last year, she mixed her bodily fluids in their rice and drinking water.

    Jail for maid who purposely dipped baby’s hand in hot water, causing second-degree burns
    9 months’ jail for maid who hit one-month-old baby to ‘vent her stress’
    Diana believed that by drinking the water, they would agree with whatever she did and would not scold her over her performance.

    Her victims ended up consuming the contaminated items.

    She also stole more than $13,000 in total from her employer’s mother over five different occasions between August 2017 and June 2018.

    Diana eventually pleaded guilty to two counts of mischief and a theft charge….”Unquote .

    Response : Go and cane the evil b***t backside of Kasisviswanathan Shanmugam since the law control by him didn’t set right to cane evil women.Look at all these evil maid mixing blood,urine tainted food for people to consume and even set black magic so that people consume it would agree with whatever she did and would not scold her over her performance !Pui! And why their whole face was not fully published out without mask ! Don’t employ Indonesian maid else they set black magic on your household.Read the passage yourself ! Dip baby in hot water also no need to be cane by law !Pui!

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  • Sane Justice:

    Maybe it will be good to treat all woman and man on the same basis if they want to be equal.
    The law should be apply equally and fairly for all. Both man and woman.

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  • @ Sane Justice:

    Fairly ?

    Man too whip.
    Woman no whip.

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  • Same justice:

    Should be same justice…and punishment.
    Then everyone including woman will also think twice to put other innocent in trouble …
    Need to cut down taking unnecessary resources involve to follow such personal agenda cases…

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